An SE conversation

Shame Response and Attachment

by The SETI Staff on September 22, 2015

Diane Poole Heller believes that “isolation is deadly.” In an entertaining conversation, her fellow SE™ practitioner Caryn Scotto d’ Luzia shares that Diane’s work brings out “that relational piece in therapy that is so important—it’s breaking some of that isolation.”

Our readers can access this exclusive 40-minute interview for free simply by registering for Caryn’s Alchemy of Shame Transformation (AST) community:

The conversation addresses somatic responses associated with shame and attachment issues, responses that often correlate to our bodies’ response to other forms of trauma. As Diane points out, with a shame response: “There’s a physiological sequence that Peter [Levine] has identified in Somatic Experiencing®—some activation happens, there’s the collapse response, … and it’s time limited … [then] people will come out into sort of a rebound response.”

Diane goes on to discuss how our attachment system’s yearning for connection versus the fight/flight/freeze repulsion instincts that come with shame can feel like a tug-of-war:

“It’s like trying to drive your car forward and backward at the same time. It’s happening in your physiology, but it’s implicit memory, so you don’t know why.”

We hope you’ll enjoy the free interview and share your thoughts in the comments below.

Dr. Heller, PhDDiane Poole Heller, PhD, is an established expert in the field of Adult Attachment Theory and models, trauma resolution, and integrative healing techniques. She began her work in 1989 with Peter Levine, PhD and the Somatic Experiencing Trauma Institute. Her SE work continues today as a senior faculty member for SETI. Diane’s book Crash Course, a guidebook on how to resolve auto accident trauma, is used as a resource for healing general trauma worldwide. Diane has been featured at international seminars and conferences, is the author of numerous articles, and authored a CNN-featured video dealing with the Columbine High School tragedy. Diane created and conducts worldwide live trainings in Dynamic Attachment Re-patterning Experience (DARe) while supporting the helping community through an array of specialized psychotherapy topics. She maintains a limited private practice in Louisville, Colorado.

Founder, SOAR & AST modelCaryn Scotto d’ Luzia is a somatic therapist, educator and trainer who is leading a shame-free living movement, training therapists and healers to facilitate shame resolution and cultivate acceptance, connection, belonging, worth, and wellbeing. She is the author of Alchemy of Shame Transformation (AST), and other e-books. Caryn is an SEP, a member of the United Nations NGO Committee on Mental Health, a member of USABP, and has spoken at the UN on the issue of resolving secondhand trauma. Caryn founded SOAR Global Institute (SGI) offering tools and training for integrating neurobiological principles and resilience building into existing therapeutic models.

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